Many men describe it as feeling “numb.” Like any addict, a porn addict will begin to revolve his life around the next buzz.
Some men show a sudden interest in “rough” sex or sexual activities you haven’t discussed and agreed to.Others will begin to show an interest in bondage, fetishes, sadomasochism, group sex, or activities that make you feel belittled and used.When your presence suddenly threatens to invade an addict’s secret world, this can be very jarring for him, and often his nervousness will be obvious.Has your husband started to criticize your looks, your weight, your bust size, or your sexual performance?He called this the “Triple-A Engine.” The last factor, anonymity, is key.
A man’s belief that no one knows where he is going online gives a false sense of security: “What I’m doing online is my own business, and it isn’t hurting anyone else.” The more a man becomes entrenched in porn, the more he begins to lose interest in real world relationships, especially with his wife and children.
Not only is their sexual energy tapped, but they begin to prefer the “safe” realm of fantasy over the “risky” real world of intimacy.
It isn’t uncommon for porn addicts to experience porn-induced erectile dysfunction.
It is common for addicts to blame their partners for their inability to perform.
In the book When preparing for real sex, the pornified brain fails to get its dopamine surge and the signal to the penis is too weak to achieve erection.
Have you noticed new credit cards opened in your husband’s name?