The narcissist as a result of lack of self-awareness, self-responsibility and self-work never gets to create durable love, happiness, bliss, joy and peace and all the beautiful aspects of life that go with co-creating through our True Selves.I have worked with narcissistic individuals, and this I promise you.
I hope you’re starting to get the picture in regard to the narcissist. The narcissistic individual is doomed to more of the same stuff – having a life fraught with complications, relationships ending, and the attracting of devastation and pain into their life.There is no end to using up people and commodities, burning them out and having to keep moving on.After separating I moved from a beautiful large property to a small unit with a mortgage. Was my ex-narcissist dating, wining, dining, buying new and better cars and having a wow of a time? Obviously staying a victim to all of this was not going to serve me.It seemed that I had flushed years of my life down the drain. Did I feel cheated, defiled, ripped off and destroyed? Was I suffering agoraphobia so badly that I couldn’t even walk out my front door without having a panic attack? I know I could have spent the next twenty years of my life burning up on the injustice of all.Like a junkie requiring something, anything to take the edge off, the narcissist has to get out into the world to start extracting narcissistic supply in order to feel better.
It is only when the narcissist does procure attention and energy that he or she experiences temporary relief from the intense inner torment that is ever persistent.As a result the narcissist has to have the best holidays, great clothes, a flash car, associations with successful people, fancy dinners, the latest and the best and anything that will feed his or her ego…But please understand material possessions cannot grant genuine happiness.They ‘go’ through pain (more like bulldoze through it) but they never deal with it.As a result they never the pain is so extreme that you now have no option other than to deal with your disowned parts and heal – because you are not going to be able to get back up on your feet and create a great life unless you do…They are not being true to themselves and they live a false existence.