I explained to them that they were so special to me, that only very, very special people would get to meet them. Or maybe thought he was ready to settle down, meet someone, and gradually introduce them into his children’s lives–but now he realizes that he’s not willing to take that step with you.
Some parents become “Disneyland Dads” (or Moms) indulging their children in an attempt to make up for the breakup.
Others intend to keep their dating lives private indefinitely because they worry that their kids won’t respond well to the new person, or because they want to minimize the amount of change their children face in the wake of the breakup.
It also requires maturity and honest communication to know when to stop waiting and move on.
As someone who waited a year, and then introduced a combined total of four kids into the mix of my relationship, I will leave you with this comfort: Remember that once you do meet his kids, you’re not only taking a major step forward, you’re also adding new levels of interaction and complexity–the dynamic among you and his kids, among your kids and him, and among your respective kids with each other.
And don’t forget, the reaction of your respective exes, if they are in the picture.
So enjoy the wait and make the most of this comparatively simpler time to have each other all to yourselves!This can be especially hard if you feel ready to introduce your kids to your mate, or you’ve already introduced them.Waiting requires lots of maturity and patience and honest communication, sometimes with no guarantee of a relationship at the end to make it all worth it.Also, I know two co-parents who resolved not to introduce their children (now in grade school) to anyone until they graduated high school. Are there other ways that he demonstrates his interest and commitment such that you feel your relationship with him is worth the wait? It may be that your guy would love for you to meet his kids, yesterday, but he dreads having to approach his ex about it.Your guy hates confrontation, has a high-conflict co-parenting situation, and is putting off introductions as long as possible.” There is no one-size-fits-all answer to that questions, but below are some insights as to what a dad–or any parent, really–might be contemplating when he decides to hold off on this big step, even if you’re ready to meet his kids and have him meet yours. He’s just not that into you…yet: Perhaps the two of you haven’t known each other long enough, in his estimation, or he doesn’t know you well enough for you to meet his kids. Do his children have any special needs or concerns that must be taken into consideration? As you get to know each other better, more answers to these questions will be revealed, allowing him to be more open to your meeting his kids. He’s just not that into you: It’s an uncomfortable truth, but it happens.