Dating after leaving bpd spouse

Often the individual with BPD threatens self-harm or cuts to release tension.She will relentlessly reach out and obsessively try to reestablish the broken bond if the healthy mate decides to break up with her.They are very impulsive; volatile moods and angry outbursts are the norm; deficits in social perception and social skills become even more apparent when disappointments occur.

Linehan (1993) developed a treatment approach for BPD called Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT).

It’s a combination of Eastern Mindfulness Training and Western Cognitive Behavior Therapy.

The individual with BPD does not have an inner center; she does not know who she is.

She tries to gauge her self-image at any given situation by interpreting the expressions of others (kind of the blind leading the blind giving her over-sensibility). Hopefully, this evokes some compassion – imagine how scary when you are just drifting at the mercy of what you believe others may do or think.

It’s an intensive program consisting of both group sessions for skills training and individual therapy with focus on validation and change of thought patterns.

Treatment can only work when your partner a) Is ready for treatment – not to please you but because life has become unmanageable; b) Commits to a consistent 12-months treatment program consisting of individual and group therapy; c) Commits to working on homework assignments to transfer what she learns in therapy to real life; d) Agrees to life affirming actions in form of working on the difficulties rather than continuing down the path of self-destruction; Yes, you heard right – it’s not you who has to be ready – it’s her!Remember we all have personality traits, which does not make us personality disordered.Notoriously famous personality disorders discussed in films, courts, and domestic disputes are all part of the dramatic-erratic cluster: The Narcissist, The Antisocial, The Individual with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) or a combination of two: Antisocial Narcissistic and/or Borderline Narcissistic.As Marsha Linehan (1993), one of the foremost researchers in the treatment of BPD proclaims in her book Cognitive-Behavioral Treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder over 70% of patients with BPD present with histories of childhood sexual abuse.Even when this is not the case, the pairing of a child with a difficult temperament (a child that is fussy and easily excitable by nature and difficult to soothe) paired with unreceptive, stressed out, or normative parents contributes towards the maintenance and further development of a difficult personality; lashing out, suicidal gestures, and self-depreciation become the hallmark of the individual with BPD.“One day I’m her king the next moment I am no good.