If you are too lazy to read it, here’s the gist of it. He treats her better than I treated her.” In all those superficial terms, the other guy might be better than you.
You both have broken up and she is not cheating on you by sleeping with the other guy. This will make her put up her defenses because she will want to stick to her decision. Telling her that you will do what she wants (get married, spend more time with her, make her a priority etc.); is not going to work now. We will get into that as you read the rest of this article.And if you freak out about it and try to control her actions; you will only look needy, controlling and manipulative. It will just make her want to sleep with the new guy even more. But you should not try doing this until you are absolutely sure what you are doing. Tell her that if she does choose to sleep with someone else; it will hurt you terribly. You had your chance to prove to her that you can change. For now, just remember to not make any of these mistakes that will likely push her into the other guys arms and/or drive you crazy.That they can take care of themselves and that they know what’s best for them. Instead, just build attraction and connection with her to the point she decides to leave the other guy for you.If you try to tell her that she is wrong about her decisions, she will go the extra mile to prove you wrong. Don’t try to convince her to leave her new boyfriend. Unfortunately, there is no way you can stop her from sleeping with someone else.(Although, for some reason, my mind is blank on examples.
If you think of an episode, let me know in the comment section).
But for me to effectively do that, I need two things from you. I have seen a lot of my readers and clients make mistakes that I tell them very clearly not to make. Be honest with yourself, with your girlfriend, and with me (if we ever communicate), as we move forward in this journey together.
You are especially vulnerable because your ex is dating someone else and your mind is probably panicking hard. Honesty is very important if you want to win her back permanently.
I know for some guys, the thought of your ex girlfriend in bed with someone else is sickening.
But if she decides to have sex with someone else; she is not doing anything wrong. Telling her how you understand her and how you won’t make the same mistakes again, will make it look like you are trying to win her back from another guy. If she is in a new relationship with another guy, it’s not the same as her flirting with some other guy to make you jealous. (Note: Just because she is trying doesn’t necessarily mean she will.) So how do you show her things will be different this time?
The reason there are so many TV show episodes based on this, is because this is a very common occurrence.