The answer as to why is still a mystery, even to experts, but Dr.Wade has a theory."What has definitely changed is the frame for the sexual activity," Wade says, explaining that the umbrella term “date” has a different meaning now than it did in generations past. ) Maybe the Millennials secretly hate us—you’d have to ask them—but if they do, they’re doing an excellent job of hiding it. The young were loud, obnoxious, demanding and politically radical. We voted Green Party and never looked back, or for Obama but never expected much. Millennial pop culture is about flat affect: mumblecore movies and all-attitude-no-plot TV shows like “Arrested Development,” emo-influenced music, giant dollops of special nostalgia sauce everywhere, every member of every band dressed like they’re showing up to roof your house (but with Taliban beards). Which was one of the things Xers hated about Boomers (Xers hate a lot): they came so close to revolution and they friggin’ gave up. They’ve been horribly screwed—even more than us Gen Xers, and make no mistake, we were hosed big time. They will never make much money or get any government benefits or get much of anything out of the system. They devote their free time to movies about comic-book heroes, to video games and to fantasy football. But perhaps what we really need to do is put on suits and take our wives out for expensive dinners, like our dads before us.” That burns. My fogey parents proselytized about Benny Goodman and Benny Hill and the Four Tops, and guess what, it didn’t take.
However, from stories old people tell, and just general knowledge and whatnot, we know that modern dating (and sex) is definitely not what it used to be. "It's definitely not true that millennials are having way more sex than everybody else," Lisa Wade, a professor of sociology at Occidental College, explains. But isn’t it a little odd that, despite being the most liberal generation yet, millennials are having less sex than the pessimistic, nihilistic generation before them?
In fact, dating for Gen X’ers was wildly different than those before them, and not surprisingly, sex and dating for millennials is unlike anything history has ever seen. According to researchers from San Diego State University, led by Professor Jean Twenge, "Millennials hold the most permissive sexual attitudes of any generation, though they chose to have sex with fewer partners than Gen X'ers did at the same age.”To throw in some hard stats, let’s visit a report that the CDC released last week, documenting the decline in sexual activity among teenagers: between the ages of 15 and 19, 42 percent of women and 44 percent of men reported having sex, relative to a significantly higher 51 percent of women and 60 percent of men in 1988. Yeah, I would say so, especially considering the fact that millennials have all kinds of dating apps for any kind of casual sex they could possibly hope to have.
There have never been more advantages to relationships with older men, precisely because Tinder and its ilk have made dating feel impossible to those of us who don’t want to participate in the battle of who-cares-less.
Reach back two decades and you are more likely to find a man who can’t fathom swiping through a series of pictures to find a mate for the night.
The Generation Gap of the 1960s and 1970s referred to the inability/refusal of “tune in, turn on, drop-out” Baby Boomers to relate to their stodgy “we survived the Depression and won World War II so turn down that goddamn rock ‘n’ roll” parents. —generation shooting anyone or blowing anything up. ) Writing in The New York Observer, Peter Hyman argues that Gen X and Gen Y shouldn’t be as cozy as they are. But I can’t afford a suit or an expensive dinner, thank you very much, Boomer scum.
When they get laid off, they don’t get angry (like we did)— they adapt. Gen Y music, movies, even their clothes: so conservative! society, politics, even the movies hated us—remember all those evil child horror movies like The Omen and It’s Alive? Gen Xers get along well with people in their twenties and thirties—certainly a lot better than those in their forties did with us when we were young. To be clear, we Xers think you Millennials are awesome. We don’t chafe, for example, at working under a younger boss. They’ve revived the ancient traditions of our grandparents: martinis, old-fashioned cocktails like grasshoppers and mint juleps and, well, old fashioneds. They open restaurants— really good restaurants—whose menus and aesthetics harken back to the 19th century, staffed by waiters who take everything very seriously. Gentle, chatty movies and TV shows, not a series of scenes, but rather riffs of tone and mood. Another is that you risk pissing people off—people you like. My friend Gabrielle met her boyfriend at a restaurant opening. just clearly don’t care.” The stereotypes, she says, are true: Older men are attentive, they aren’t threatened by your career success, they didn’t grow up watching porn on their laptops, and they certainly don’t expect sex from you before you’ve even had a chance to meet.They are twenty years apart, and they’ve been together for two. “I watch so many of my other friends agonize over text messages from guys who . It’s not an “old-fashioned” dating scheme, it’s just a more humane one.According to (cough, cough) the Boomer-run media, twentysomethings/Gen Y/Millennials are narcissists. Back in 1990, Time was smearing Gen X as shallow, apolitical, unambitious shoe-gazers. They would rather hike in the Himalayas than climb a corporate ladder.