With the second (non) ex, I realized there was an ounce of hope lingering in me that maybe we would reunite one day, and seeing that he was no longer available crushed it.
A lot of my friends have confessed they've felt the same way, especially when they're forced to find out through social media.Discomfort with an ex publicly pairing up again is also acknowledged in pop culture; after Marnie breaks up with Charlie on , she obsesses over the other woman she sees in his Facebook photos."Most people don't want to feel expendable, rejected, or out of control," sex and relationships therapist Cathy Beaton tells Bustle. Comparing yourself to your ex's new partner, whether to wonder if they're better than you or to wonder if they're similar to you, will lead you down the wrong line of reasoning.Believe in your ability to make her fall for you and give it some good time as well. Give her enough time to figure out her true feelings for you. This new guy she has made a straight jump to is in all probability just a rebound relationship she has gotten herself into.Do understand that the chances of it getting serious or working out well is going to be very very slim. Just relax and let her figure out that she is in fact in a pointless rebound relationship. Breaking up with someone you are still in love with is surely one of the hardest things you might have ever gone through.
And it doesn’t help at all if your Ex has moved on to her next relationship and is busy seeing someone else.A friend once told me his test of whether he's over an ex is whether it would bother him if they were dating someone else.Under that logic, I've never gotten over anyone in my life. After I last spoke to another fling I never even officially dated, I made sure to unfollow him on Facebook so I didn't have a similar experience.She is going to try to make you jealous, do not fall for that Trap Rebound or not, it might be real hard for you to the digest the fact that your ex-girlfriend is dating someone else.But for our plan to work, make sure that you stay cool about it!There might be instances when you see her with this new guy, but you should be completely cool about it.